Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Relationships and Independence

March 14, 2010

From what the poll is telling me that I put out there the biggest topics that you all want to see me write about are relationships and independence. I am excited to see where this is going to go because relationships could go several different ways,  I could talk about what its like to have my first boyfriend at the age of 39. Or I could talk about my female friends and how they stick by me during difficult times in my life.  Also the independence thing is going to be interesting because I don’t feel that I am as independent as I should be at the age of 39, but when people say you still live at home..I am like yeah I do. I am very content living at home my parents and I get along really well they give me my space when I need it. We like being together as a family but we also like our alone times. I consider having my car my independence. They also love my boyfriend and are very happy for the two of us.  I also would like to find out if you all would like for me to go in the direction of what its like to travel as a disabled person? I am in the process of saving my money to take some online classes to be a home based travel agent. I have worked in the travel industry before moving overseas and I wanted to get back into it when we moved back here but job opportunities were just not there, so I decided to go the route of building my clientele and starting my own small business. My boyfriend as I have mentioned before is into Internet Marketing, make sure you check out his websites they are on the side of my blog. He really is excited about his work and very passionate about it.

I know I started this post about relationship and independence..and it just went into several directions sorry about that..sometimes that is how my brain works..major spaghetting..for those of you that know the book Men are like Waffles and Woman are like Spaghetti..great book.

Hope you all have a great week. Let me know how you are all doing this week.



February 9, 2010

Good Morning!

Hope all my readers/friends are doing well this morning. Some of you may be bracing for another snow storm. I know where my boyfriend lives he had over 2 feet snow and they are expecting more in the next 24-48 hours.

Ok on to the reason for this post…Awhile back I had recieved an email from the SBAA stating that they were looking for people who have/had done some volunteering. So I wrote the person back and said that I would very much like to be part of this story. I recieved an email response and then set up a time to talk to a gal from SBAA. She then set up an interview with the gal who was doing the story for an interview. I had that last night. The story from what I understand will be in the Insight Magazine that is put out by SBAA, sometime in March/April. Again this is a great way for those of us adults with Spina Bifida to get the word out there and be able to encourage our teens and other adults that yes we can volunteer also does not matter if we have a disablity or not. I wanted to just quickly share that news with you all. I will if I can post the article online once I see it. I was told that once she writes it up and sends it in that I will be given a copy before it goes to print. This magazine is just another resource that I hope you all are able to take advantage of.


February 5, 2010

Someone commented on here and wanted to know more about my boyfriend and our relationship that gave me an idea to talk about friendship and relationships.

To give a short background on my boyfriend and how we met. ..I will try and keep it brief..

We via the web on a site called Eharmony while I was living in Hungary. There was a free weekend  over the Thankgiving weekend back in 2006. I had seen it but was like I don’t think its for me, because I had been off and on the website for close to 6 years. But this guy contacted me and wanted to communicate so I was like what do I gotta lose? Nothing right? So I accepted his invite to communicate and we got through the 4 step process of communcating on the website by the end of the 4 day free offer. We started communcating via Email and Instant Messenger and did that exclusively until Christmas of 2008 when we had our first phone call.  During all this I had moved back to the states, transistioned to North Carolina to a new environment since I was from the north. That first phone call was the best thing in the world, to finally connect via voice and not just writing. We would talk on holidays and special occasions. We gradually increased it to a once a week call, after he came to visit me for the first time in October 2009 we spent the weekend together doing things around the area here in NC.  Ok I can see I can talk about to make along story short we have really hit it off and this past christmas we moved from being friends to boyfriend/girlfriend and we refer to what we have as relationship not just a friendship. We know that the Lord led us together and allowed us to communcate the way He did for a reason.  I believe that Thanksgiving weekend back in 2006 may have and did change my life forever.

As far as friendships go I never did really have any deep friendships growing up I tended to be very shy and reserved. I was not out spoke at all. I guess growing up dealing with adults most of my childhood because of being in the hospital I really did not  know how to deal with peers my own age. I have heard this from other parents also that their children tend to deal with adults better then they do their own peers. Honestly I can say that may have hurt me because like I said I don’t have to many friends that I can talk to on a deep boyfriend on the other hand we can have very deep conversations and I am very open with him. Girlfriends I have maybe one or two that I am able to do that with also.

Someone wanted to know if my boyfriend and I are considering marriage? Well not right now, we both need to get ourselves alittle more stable in the financial area of our lives. I just started working a part time job and he is a Internet Marketer that works from home so he is trying to get that job established. If any of you would like to see his work feel free to email me at and I would be glad to share that with you..anything to get him more traffic. Also if anyone is on facebook let me know. I am on there as Christine N. I think that is how you would find me?

Thanks to all who read this if you like what you read please leave me a comment and if there is anything else you want to know about our relationship let me know.